Did God hate unborn baby Esau?

In Romans 9:10-13, Paul quoted Malachi 1:2-4:

"I have loved you," says the LORD.
"Yet you say, "In what way have You loved us?'
Was not Esau Jacob's brother?"
Says the LORD.
"Yet Jacob I have loved;
But Esau I have hated,
And laid waste his mountains and his heritage
For the jackals of the wilderness."

Even though Edom has said,
"We have been impoverished,
But we will return and build the desolate places,"

Thus says the LORD of hosts:

"They may build, but I will throw down;
They shall be called the Territory of Wickedness,
And the people against whom the LORD will have indignation forever."

If God had based his hatred on His foreseen wickedness of Esau, why did he plainly say, "for the children not yet being born, nor having done any good or evil" (Romans 9:11)? The text indicates that no good or evil deed determined His hatred. In fact, Paul further emphasizes that this is his point by saying this was done "that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works but of Him who calls."

In Romans 3:10-11, Paul already stated:

As it is written:

"There is none righteous, no, not one;
There is none who understands;
There is none who seeks after God.

In Romans 8:7-8, Paul said:

Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.

In Ephesians 2:1-3, he said:

And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, in which you once walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience, among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.

While the majority of us accept to the doctrine of original sin or total depravity, we don't acknowledge the implications. Theologically, you could say we're all born Evil Dead. But, wait a minute, God is love, right?

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
1 John 4:7-8

Once again, look at the context: Beloved. He's speaking to the elect. But look at Psalm 5:5

The boastful shall not stand in Your sight; You hate all workers of iniquity.

Psalm 11:5

The LORD tests the righteous, But the wicked and the one who loves violence His soul hates.

If we are born dead in trespasses and sins, then what does that say about God's attitude toward us? That's right. There should be nothing but hatred for us. Put together, original sin and God's hatred of the wicked suggests that God should have hated both Jacob and Esau. But look at what comes next in 1 John 4.

In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. (v. 9-11)

That's the miraculous statement in this passage. In spite of what God foreknows of Jacob, He chose to love him! So, if God chose to love Jacob and hate Esau, did Esau ever really have a chance? What if Esau wanted to repent? The writer of Hebrews said:

Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears. (12:14-17)

Ouch! Well, this actually leads into my next question: